My ‘’BOB’’ keeps me happy while I avoid disappointing sex, and it’s less messy on the clean-up. It’s also never forced me into anything I didn’t want to do with brute force, and I want to avoid any more beatings in my lifetime if I can help it. I have recovered from my fair share and am so done with broken bones and fractured limbs.

I am lucky that in all the years and the beatings, I have taken, I have very few scars and none that you can see unless you look hard. Most ...