“I had my first serious girlfriend at uni, Monique, and that was when I realized just how much damage had been done to me. It’s when I discovered that I couldn’t stand to be touched. Needless to say, our first few times being intimate didn’t go well. But she was good to me and we worked it out until one night when I fell asleep with her in my bed. I’d been careful to never do that. I knew there was a chance that I would have a nightmare. I had them nearly every night and they were ...