Yvonne, being so young, didn’t understand what Estelle was doing. As she watched Estelle go through the list, she asked in confusion, “Mom, where did Great-grandpa go? Why hasn’t he come back home? And why is his photo black and white?” While speaking, she pointed at the black and white photo of Gary in the mourning hall. It was Gary’s favorite photo, and it captured his authoritative presence.

Estelle was taken aback by Yvonne’s questions and didn’t quite know how to explain the ...